The Parental Intelligence Newsletter

27 May 2012

Hi, this is Bob Collier inviting you to 'explore the psychology of happy and successful parenting', connect with bright minds, discover new ideas and sail outside the mainstream for a while without running aground.

All that and more.

In this issue of the Parental Intelligence Newsletter there are links to 17 articles and 7 notices and items of news. As always, I trust you will find in my latest collection of parenting, education and personal development ideas and information from around the internet something that will make a positive difference to your life - and, through you, to the lives of your children.

Please scroll down to pick and choose whatever is of interest and useful to you.

Thank you for being here! I appreciate this opportunity to be of help to you in your parenting adventure and wish you all the happiness and success you would wish yourself.

See you next time!




Attachment Parenting
by Barb Lundgren

[Attachment Parenting] is all about commitment. My children were the ones who taught me all about it and how critical it is to sustainable health, wellness, psychological fortitude and the establishment of one's BACKBONE - that critical element in the development of self that gives us resilience, confidence, self respect and a core internal belief that we are connected through love. Our backbone determines everything about us: how we take on the world, our curiosity, ability to try new things without fear, not give up, give unconditionally, love without fear of failure, trust and bounce back after a fall.

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Confessions of an Attachment Parented Child
by Anne-Marie

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you may have figured out that I am older than 20. That makes me older than Dr. Sears's The Baby Book. I am older than the Attachment Parenting Movement. But guess what? The "official" AP style (Attachment Parenting) put together a bunch of ideas that a bunch of parents were already using. Including mine. I have been searching my soul, trying to figure out why hearing this parenting style labeled as "extreme" has made me so darn angry. It finally hit me today-I am an attachment parented child, all grown up, 15w5d pregnant and ready to Attachment Parent my own baby. My childhood was not extreme. Here's my confession ...

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TIME's take on toddler nursing: A madonna, her child…and a chair?
by Sarah Scott

The photo on TIME magazine's cover of an unnaturally posed mother with her nursing child sparked a media firestorm that quickly spread. Soon, journalists, daytime TV divas and radio talk show hosts were on fire with commentary. And, the article's combative title, "Are You Mom Enough" was certainly no less buzz worthy. Mothers of every sort saw this as a call to arms and launched campaigns for or against attachment parenting on every social media outlet they could find. Defenses of extreme choices, of conventional choices and of on the fence choices sprang up everywhere. And, sadly, most of these defenses were rooted in criticisms of the opposing "side" in this new mommy war.

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Breastfeeding now on SIDS prevention list
by Adam Cresswell,
The Australian

Breastfeeding has been added to the list of things mothers are advised to do to protect their baby from sudden infant death syndrome, with experts saying there is clear evidence breastfed babies have less than half the risk of dying unexpectedly.

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Pride Goeth Before Tiny Bite Marks
by Laura Grace Weldon

I don't take credit for my children's many accomplishments. They are their own remarkable people.

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I'll Give You an Example
by Rebecca Eanes

An obvious truth: Children follow our example.

The reason so many parents struggle with "problem behaviors" has little to do with "discipline" and a whole lot to do with their example.

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Underlying tension for millennials against standardized education
by Judy Breck

The way Millennials live their lives - creating their own iPod playlists, designing their own Facebook pages grates against one-size-fits-all, industrial-era public education policies . . . . The preceding words are adjusted to education from a point made this week [August 2011] by conservative columnist Michael Barone ...

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Students who need knowledge access most use smartphones
by Judy Breck

"A third of all American adults own a smartphone and for many minority and low income users, those mobile devices have replaced computers for Internet access." So begins an article in today's Washington Post [12 July 2011]. As usual, education is overlooked in the discussion - yet from the facts in the article the implications for engaging students in knowledge rattle the foundation of education as we know it. And that is a beautiful thing.

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Successful Teen Homeschooling: Two Vital Factors
by Laura Grace Weldon

The teenaged years are actually the most rewarding of the homeschooling years. That's what we've found with our four homeschooled children. And that's what I was told by many of the 110 families I interviewed for my book Free Range Learning:: How Homeschooling Changes Everything. People in Ireland, Australia, India, Germany, and the U.S. described coming to this realization in similar ways. Their concerns about helping a young child master the basics or their struggles to find the right homeschooling style gradually resolved. Parents grew to trust the process of learning much more completely and, perhaps as a result, they saw their children mature into capable and self-directed young people.

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The Art of Inspiration: The role parents play in unschooling
by Wendy Priesnitz

One of the criticisms leveled at "unschooling" by the misinformed is that it's "unparenting" - meaning that it's the easy way out for lazy parents who "allow" their kids to do nothing all day, presumably watching television or zombifying in front of a computer screen. It's a silly stereotype, of course, and one that highlights our society's disrespect for and lack of trust in children and young people.

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A Travel Excursion of the Mind
by David Albert

A group of homeschooling mothers gathered together in a circle to discuss unschooling approaches to their children's education.

"I can't get mine to do any math," moaned one, and heads began to nod.

"Mine neither," whined another. "She never wants to."

The heads rolled and shook more vigorously, and soon I found myself sitting -- metaphorically, of course, and with no offense intended -- amidst a Greek chorus of heartrending laments, sighs, and whimpers, perhaps something like a modern homeschooling rendition of Euripedes' The Trojan Women.

"I've tried to convince her that math is a skill she'll really use later in life, but she isn't buying it."

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Quiet idea-journeys
by Sandra Dodd

From my point of view and from my experience, if art and music lead a kid-conversation to Italy, and they make this connection at 10:30 at night, I could say say "Go to sleep," or I could get excited with them, and tell them the Ninja Turtles were named after Renaissance artists, and that all the musical terminology we use, and most of early opera, came from Italy. That maybe the Roman Empire died, but Rome was not through being a center for advanced thought. Or however much of that a child cares about. And some of that will work better with an art book out, and maybe a map of the world. Look! Italy looks like a boot for sure, and look how close it is to Greece, and to the Middle East. Look who their neighbors are to the north and west, and how much sea coast they have. Look at their boats.

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10 Authors to Inspire You on Your Interest-Led Learning Path
by Christina Pilkington

I was very, very blessed to come across some amazing authors early in my journey towards interest-led learning. Many of you might be familiar with some of these authors. I hope to introduce you to some new authors and books, too.

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Self-Learning: The New Master's Degree
by Neil Spencer
"The self-motivated learner will be on the web. And there will be far less place-based [college] things…college - except for the parties - needs to be less place-based." - Bill Gates

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Why hypnosis can cure social anxiety (or at least make it irrelevant)
by Mark Tyrrell   

Why do you think we have emotions? Wouldn't life be simpler without them? Do we have emotions to give middle class people something to talk about or to provide soap opera writers with script material?

Of course not. As with everything else in human makeup, emotions exist to keep us safe and alive and able to thrive.

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Beat Depression. End Depression. Fight Depression.
by Ian White

Beat it? End it? Fight it? Just what does it all mean?

When I first started writing my book - this 'depression' one, I mean - a few years ago, I started out knowing just how naïve it would be to expect that everyone on the planet who suffers depression would actually want to do anything about changing it. After all, in my clinical work, I had seen countless people who came to therapy thinking that depression was something they could not do anything about (only to discover that they most certainly could).

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The ANGER Deal
by Ian White

Anger Management! ... Did you see the movie with Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler? Do you think you might be a person who could do with some "anger management" courses? Maybe even a magistrate has ordered you to "do" anger management at some time in the past. Or, you just know that those outbursts of yours are destructive. It isn't so unusual for people diagnosed with bipolar - or in older terms, manic depression - to have outbursts, either as a result of their precarious balance of emotions or as a direct result of the medication they have been prescribed.

Or perhaps you're too afraid of imagining a life of peaceful existence with yourself and those around you because you don't think you can ever achieve that.

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Your Kids Aren't Sick

A new blog from Dr. Randy Cima.

"This is a blog about children, their parents, the chemicals we give them, why we shouldn't, how to engage them to be productive and happy - and you too - and, of course, temperaments.  I'm a prior student of Professor [David] Keirsey, graduating from Cal State Fullerton in 1983 with a Master's degree in Counseling. I've been using temperament theory as part of my treatment programs ever since."



"HESFES is the Home Educators' Summer Festival. Children who are in school are of course very welcome. HESFES is non profit making and entirely self funding. Non commercial with very few stalls.

Now in its 15th year this small (1500 people) and very friendly event will once again see people from all over the UK and abroad come together for a week of fun."

Saturday 21st July - Saturday 28th July 2012

Stonham Barns, Suffolk, England.

Get the details at

Conscious Parenting & Natural Learning Conference 2012

"Join us to celebrate empowered conscious parenting and natural learning choices!

Our aim is to provide enriching experiences and to inspire families wanting to live more harmoniously and consciously while living and learning with their children and partners."

Now at three locations:

Ballarat (Melbourne), VIC
BIG4 Ballarat Welcome Stranger Holiday Park
Wednesday, 8th August - Friday, 10th August 2012 (inclusive)

Byron Bay, NSW
Suffolk Beachfront Holiday Park
Saturday, 11th August - Monday, 13th August 2012 (inclusive)

Umina Beach (Sydney), NSW
Ocean Beach Holiday Park
Tuesday, 14th August - Thursday, 16th August 2012 (inclusive)

"Early Bird" prices still available. Visit the registration page for the details.

Escape Adulthood Summit

From Kim & Jason Kotecki:

"On August 24th & 25th, we are hosting the first ever Escape Adulthood Summit in picturesque Madison, Wisconsin. It will be a wild rumpus of epic proportions.

Part conference, part retreat, part mastermind group, it's a one-of-a-kind event designed for people instilled with the soaring spirit of childhood."

Visit for the exciting details

Sandra Dodd World Tour

Unschooling legend Sandra Dodd (and colleague Joyce Fetteroll) are planning a visit to Australia some time in 2013. Brisbane and Adelaide are currently 'pencilled in' and I'm hoping it will also be possible to add Canberra to the itinerary. If this is of interest to you, please go here to subscribe to the updates.

The link below has details of Sandra Dodd's speaking appearances generally:

RIP Judy Breck

I learned earlier this month that Judy Breck, creator of, amongst other projects, passed away in October 2011, at her home in El Paso, Texas, after a two year battle with cancer. She was 75. Though we never met, I shall miss her, her bright mind and progressive ideas. I trust that her work will live on and influence others in the positive way that it has influenced me.

I've included two of Judy's observations on the future of education in the body of this issue above. At the time of writing, her various websites are still available and make excellent reading.

This is her page at the Parental Intelligence website

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Published by Bob Collier, Canberra, Australia  

Email: bobcollier[at]parental-intelligence[dot]com 

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