The Parental Intelligence Newsletter


19 February 2012


Hi, this is Bob Collier inviting you to 'explore the psychology of happy and successful parenting', connect with bright minds, discover new ideas and sail outside the mainstream for a while without running aground.

All that and more.

In this issue of the Parental Intelligence Newsletter there are links to 16 articles and 4 notices and items of news. As always, I trust you will find in my latest collection of parenting, education and personal development ideas and information from around the internet something that will make a positive difference to your life - and, through you, to the lives of your children.

Please scroll down to pick and choose whatever is of interest and useful to you.

Thank you for being here! I appreciate this opportunity to be of help to you in your parenting adventure and wish you all the happiness and success you would wish yourself.

See you next time!

Bob

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ARTICLE LINKS


Science overturns view of humans as naturally 'nasty'
by Agence France-Presse

Biological research increasingly debunks the view of humanity as competitive, aggressive and brutish, a leading specialist in primate behavior told a major science conference.

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Mothers' hard work pays off with big brains for their babies
from Physorg.com

Brain growth in babies is linked to the amount of time and energy mothers 'invest', according to new research published today [March 28, 2011].

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Intuitive Parenting
by Robin Grille

Robin Grille asks us to listen to our heart-voice and reassures parents that they know much more than they realise.

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Should we parent boys and girls differently?
by PhDinParenting
   
There are two camps when it comes to gender differences. There are those that insist that the differences between boys and girls are biologically hard-wired. And there are those that insist that the differences are learned. Lawrence Cohen, author of Playful Parenting, summarizes existing research on the subject by saying that while inborn differences do exist, they are quite small but they are then nurtured and exacerbated by the way we treat girls or boys. The small difference that does exist is that boys are slightly more likely to seek out power and girls slightly more likely to seek out connection. And then society takes over and reinforces these differences rather than minimizing them.

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You Didn't Thank Me For Punching You in the Face
by queenofthecouch

I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child,  coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime.  I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told "Oh, that just means he likes you".  I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. 

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[Please be aware that this item includes examples of words that may offend]


Truth and Consequences
by Sarah Parent and Barb Lundgren

There's a great conversation to be had about consequences. In fact, I've had more than one with friends, at conferences, and on the phone. It has become clear in these interactions that the term 'consequences' can be interpreted, or misinterpreted as the case may be, in different ways.

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Pursuit of Selfishness
by Gal Baras

Ronit and I read a lot about happiness, we talk a lot about happiness, we write a lot about happiness and we do our best every day to be happy. In fact, we believe that happiness should be the main pursuit of everybody's life. But some people say this focus is filling the world with selfishness and that people who want personal happiness are selfish.

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Happiness is in the Right Brain
by Ronit Baras

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift. The rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." - Albert Einstein

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Ten signs you need a different kind of education for your child
by Jerry Mintz

Many parents don't realize that the education world has changed drastically since they were in school. Schools and class sizes used to be smaller, dropout rates lower, in-school violence almost unheard of, and teachers weren't terrified of showing affection to their students, or of discussing moral values. Of course, even then, school was far from perfect, but at least the teachers-and usually the principal-knew every student by name, something that is increasingly rare today.

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Exploding the MYTHS About Family Centered Education (or Homeschooling)
by Linda Dobson

There's a lot of information out there on homeschooling now, some good, some bad, some true, some false. Since it is our human nature to form images based on perceptions that may not prove accurate, and all information that we receive is understood only in relation to what has passed before, I'm concerned about some of the existing homeschooling myths.

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Taking risks and breaking rules
by Wendy Priesnitz

Albert Einstein once said that it is a miracle curiosity survives formal education. Unfortunately, it often doesn't. When my husband Rolf and I decided almost 40 years ago that we wouldn't send our then-unborn daughters to school, we knew that curiosity was one of the precious traits we didn't want to risk them losing. In fact, we knew many things that we wanted to avoid about a school-based education, but nurturing the alternative - ensuring they retained their curiosity and other self-directed learning skills - well, that was another matter. Here are some of the components that, through trial and error, we discovered were central to a successful life learning (unschooling) experience.

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Learning about natural learning
by Sandra Dodd

Let [babies] hear you speak, and find opportunities for them to hear others speak. Although there are justifications and theories about what babies like and respond to (high voices and sing-songy voices seem to appeal to babies), don't revert to a whole babytalk language with them. Some is fine, but talk to them about real things, too.

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How Do I Define Unschooling?
by The Whole Mama

This is my personal definition of Unschooling developed over the years I have been learning about it, applying it and finetuning it as we go along. It may not be yours. It may not be the one held by other Unschoolers. It may not even by the one I hold next week or next month or next year, because the joy of this path is it creates continual expansion, reviewing of beliefs and ongoing growth.

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Kids Who Can Think For Themselves Can Manage Themselves
by Wendy Priesnitz

Someone mentioned to me the other day that he and his wife do not control their children's thinking or their learning, but they occasionally control their behavior, because of their duty to nourish and protect. I always found that precisely because my husband and I didn´t try to control our (now adult) daughters´ thinking, etc., we seldom needed to control their behavior.

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Exit Lectures. Enter Games. The New Expression of Learning.
by Clark Aldrich

Covering Unschooling Rules:
  9. Sitting through a classroom lecture is not just unnatural for most people, it is painful.
  26. Biologically, the necessary order of learning is: explore, then play, then add rigor.

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The Trouble with the ANTI "Anti-Vaccine" Movement: How They Hijack the Issue; Distort the Facts; and Totally Miss the Point
by Julie Obradovic

1. They believe there is an anti-vaccine movement.

This may surprise a lot of people, but there actually isn't an "anti-vaccine movement". Although there are definitely people who believe no vaccine is a good vaccine, the controversy has never been solely about whether or not vaccines are good or bad; it's been about whether or not they are being used responsibly and have been properly investigated for their role in chronic health conditions.

The more appropriate term to describe people raising this important question would be consumer safety advocates, seeking informed consent, more research, product liability, and policy reform.

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NOTICE BOARD


How I Parent

A short and hopefully useful instantly downloadable FREE e-book about how I've parented my own children.

Download your copy here (290KB) 


Hypnosis MP3s for Beginners

Here's another FREE e-book for you.

Are you a little bit afraid of hypnosis?

"Hypnosis MP3s for Beginners will help you understand and maximize the benefits of using downloadable pre-recorded hypnosis sessions to make positive changes in your life and to feel comfortable and safe when using hypnosis MP3s no matter what you believe about hypnosis right now."

For more information and to download a free copy of Hypnosis MP3s for Beginners, visit www.hypnosismp3sforbeginners.com

A Kindle version will be available shortly under the title of How to Use Hypnosis Effectively.  The free pdf version of my "beginners guide to hypnosis MP3s" by that name containing a special 50% discount offer from leading UK hypnotherapist Adam Eason is still available at the time of writing.

To take advantage of that, go to www.adam-eason.com


Beat Depression The Drug Free Way

A new and eagerly awaited book from Ian White, originator of Af-x® Therapy (and the only person ever to write an article exclusively for the Parental Intelligence Newsletter).

Beat Depression The Drug Free Way: Getting Better by Breaking the Myths

"Do You Really Know The Truth About Your Depression?"

Get the facts at www.depressioninbalance.com


Unschooling Blog Carnival

"A Blog Carnival is a collection of  posts from a variety of blogs that all are related by a certain theme. Blog Carnivals can be centered around any theme and ours is first and foremost, Unschooling."

This month, the topic of interest is LOVE.

Visit unschoolingblogcarnival.blogspot.com.au for links to the blog posts






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Published by Bob Collier, Canberra, Australia  

Email: bobcollier[at]parental-intelligence[dot]com 






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