The Parental Intelligence Newsletter

November 2008

Hi, this is Bob Collier inviting you to 'explore the psychology of happy and successful parenting', connect with bright minds, discover new ideas and sail outside the mainstream for a while without running aground.

All that and more.

In this month's issue of the Parental Intelligence Newsletter there are links to 14 articles and 20 notices and items of news. As always, I trust you will find in my latest collection of parenting, education and personal development ideas and information from around the internet something that will make a positive difference to your life - and, through you, to the lives of your children.

Please scroll down to pick and choose whatever is of interest and useful to you.

Thank you for being here! I appreciate this opportunity to be of help to you in your parenting adventure and wish you all the happiness and success you would wish yourself.

See you next month!



Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Liberating Parents

A new and different parenting book from Australian NLP Consultant and Life Coach Keith Gilbert.

"... this is what Liberating Parents is all about.  It is training for parents so that you can learn the essential processes for creating, maintaining and enjoying mental and emotional health and wellbeing. And when you have these skills and use them on a daily basis then you become a model for your children of a balanced, creative and free individual… which is exactly what you want for your children!"

My favourite parenting book ever

Invest in a copy of Liberating Parents at 
Visit Keith Gilbert's Neuro Linguistic Parents website for more information

Join my Facebook group Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Liberating Parents


High Point pediatrician believes ADHD does not exist
by Jimmy Tomlin

If there's such a thing as an "ADHD Establishment," Dr. Bose Ravenel stands firmly in the anti-establishment camp.

And that badge - he refers to himself as "a rebel with a cause" - is one the 70-year-old High Point pediatrician wears proudly.

"I don't relish it," he says, "but it doesn't bother me because I'm convinced about what we're doing."

Ravenel, who has practiced in High Point since 1988, has co-authored a new book - with noted family psychologist John Rosemond - that likely will make him a lightning rod for criticism from the aforementioned ADHD Establishment.

In the book, "The Diseasing of America's Children: Exposing the ADHD Fiasco and Empowering Parents To Take Back Control" (Thomas Nelson, $24.99), the authors not only hold the ADHD Establishment's feet to the fire - they toss the establishment into the fire, using such pointed phrases as "a travesty of science," "flimsy evidence," "a scandal waiting to erupt," and "an effort that has resulted in the manufacture of diseases that do not exist."

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Pharmaceutical Industry Hustlers - Part I
by Evelyn Pringle

After twenty long years, it appears that the epidemic in mental disorders in America might be coming to an end. It won't happen because of any great medical breakthrough but rather because the perpetrators of the greatest healthcare fraud in history are finally being exposed. The demolition of the giant "psycho-pharmaceutical complex" appears to be on the horizon.

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Irrational Rules of Living - Dependency
by Ronit Baras

Children are born into this world needy and helpless. They are born without the ability to speak, without the ability to express their feelings clearly, without the ability to satisfy their own essential needs or change anything in their world. They are equipped with one skill to rule their world - crying.

With their cries, they try to tell us they are wet, hungry, hot, cold, uncomfortable, in pain, tired, thirsty, itchy or anything else they may feel or need. If you want to understand how it feels to be a baby with only one way of expressing yourself, try it. Spend a whole day communicating with the outer world without speaking, without any hand gestures, without using facial expressions, only by crying! This will give you a better perspective on being a baby.

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Supernanny: Alluring and Deceptive
by Aletha Solter, Ph.D.

Read the complete article here ...

Universal preschool hasn't delivered results
by Shikha Dalmia, Lisa Snell

Early education advocates want you to believe that the case for universal preschool is so airtight that raising any questions about it is an act of heresy. But there is a strong and growing body of literature showing that preschool produces virtually no lasting benefits for the majority of kids.

Proponents of universal preschool claim that when kids attend quality preschools, they grow up to be smarter, richer and more law-abiding. But this is a fairy tale not based on research.

More kids who attend preschool enter kindergarten knowing their ABCs and counting their numbers than their stay-at-home peers, it is true. But these gains fade, as study after study has shown.

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Govt warned to rethink education revolution
from ABC News

The [Australian] Federal Government's proposed education reforms could severely damage the education system and would not improve student performance, an international education expert has warned.

Professor Peter Mortimore, a former director of the London-based Institute of Education, said the Government's enthusiasm to embrace transparent reporting of schools' results would simply mirror the mistakes made in England over the past 20 years.

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Pupils to get free home computers
from BBC News

The first 20,000 youngsters to benefit from plans to ensure all of England's school-age children have computer access at home have been earmarked.

The £300m scheme will be piloted among pupils from low-income families in Suffolk and in Oldham from February.

Grants will pay for a computer, software, internet access for one year and three years' technical support.

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Simple learning strategies for a complex world
from The New Zealand Herald

Ask someone to describe educational TV and chances are they'll mention kids stuck in front of a screen.

It doesn't need to be so, says Gordon Dryden, and these days it is increasingly likely the kids themselves will be creating the content. In some New Zealand schools, even new entrants are given digital camcorders to record their experiences, giving them a chance to be multimedia journalists from a very young age.

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Informal learning and the future
by Nick Shackleton-Jones

The word 'learning' has come to mean two different kinds of things: firstly, learning - the natural and normal cognitive mechanisms by which we (and other creatures develop) and secondly 'learning' which describes a historical peculiarity of human culture, involving classrooms, courses and so forth.

Learning has very little to do with 'learning' - we might occasionally learn whilst on a course, but this is often more by accident than design. However, in recent years organisations have begun to refer to this distinction as 'formal' vs. 'informal' learning - although in practice this is often confusing, since 'informal learning' generally just refers to the ways in which we normally learn (e.g. learning by trial and error, observation, reference) whereas 'formal learning' is often simply a reference to cultural norms (colleges, trainers etc.).

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Sorry honey, you can't believe everything you read in your printed science textbook
by Wesley Fryer

My 7 year old daughter and I had an interesting disagreement a few weeks ago which was finally resolved on Monday. We had been discussing navigation and compasses, and she informed me that compasses have magnets in them. I asked her why she thought this, and she told me:

"My science textbook says compasses have magnets in them."

I felt relatively certain she was mistaken, not only on a factual basis (because a compass is a freely spinning metal object on a pinhead or pivot, which is magnetized but does NOT have a magnet "in" it) as well as with regard to the facts included in her science textbook. SURELY her new, beautiful science textbook wouldn't have a basic error in it like this? Surely she just "misunderstood" what was written in her textbook, and needs to re-read the information again to understand what makes up a compass?

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Take a Chance . . . Let Them Dance: Validating Artistic Expression
by Sir Ken Robinson

I heard a great story recently about a six-year-old girl in a drawing lesson. The teacher said this little girl hardly ever paid attention in class, but during this lesson she did. The teacher was fascinated. She asked the girl, "What are you drawing?" And the girl said, "I'm drawing a picture of God." The teacher said, "But nobody knows what God looks like." The girl said, "They will in a minute."

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Stress and Perception
[An excerpt from the book Teach Your Own]
by John Holt

Not long ago I was one of many speakers at a large conference of specialists in "learning disabilities." Before more than a thousand people I reviewed the evidence for a connection between anxiety and perceptual or other learning disorders. I spoke of the medical experience of two world wars, and of my own experience as a teacher and as a beginning learner of music. The I asked for a show of hands response to this question: "How many of you have heard of - only heard of- not done- any research on possible connections between perceptual handicaps in children and their anxiety, however measured? How many have heard of any research to find whether and to what degree lowering measurable anxiety in children might lessen the incidence of perceptual handicaps?"

In that roomful of over a thousand experts in this field, only two people raised their hands. What the others may have known, I do not know. But only two raised their hands.

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Science and Friday
by Sandra Dodd

So it's 5:30 in the morning and I'm awake and there's no juice and it's too early to go to the store, so I open a big box of cereal Keith bought at Costco. Inside this big box are two big bags of Frosted Mini-Wheats. Cool. I'm deciding whether to flatten the box for recycling or save it whole for maybe sending a Christmas gift to Kirby or something, and I notice this important clinical news.

It says it's going to improve my attentiveness.

So I start paying more attention right away. There's fine print.

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10 Traits Of A Successful Human Being
by Eric Hamm

There's a lot of talk about what you should do to become successful, but I would argue that it's more about who you are that makes the biggest impact.  It's the decisions we make on a daily basis, the habits we naturally form in our lives that determine the level of success we can achieve.  Who we are determines how we react to life, even when we're not consciously in the act of 'being successful'.

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How I Parent

A short and hopefully useful instantly downloadable ebook about how I parent my own children.

Read more about that here 

Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement

Be sure to download your FREE copy of my Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement ebooks while you're here if you haven't done so already.

There are two volumes so far. These ebooks are FREE with my compliments and are packed with valuable insights and useful ideas to help you in your parenting adventure.

Volume 1 - an introduction to the work of Michael Mendizza, Robin Grille, Laura Ramirez, Jan Hunt, Pam Leo, Pat and Larry Downing, Alfie Kohn, Marc Prensky, Kali Wendorf and Jan Fortune-Wood:

Download it from here  

Volume 2 - an introduction to the work of Aletha Solter, Kim Wildner, Naomi Aldort, John Travis and Meryn Callander, John Breeding, Scott Noelle, Beverley Paine and Alan Wilson

Download it from here

Kindred Magazine

"Kindred magazine is created to support and give voice to the embryonic but powerfully essential movement towards conscious parenting and conscious living happening all around the world. It is in honour of that revolutionary movement everywhere, be it large or small, public or personal, that Kindred addresses issues ahead of mainstream media. It brings cutting edge research and information from pioneers in all fields relating to the well being of our human family and the world we live in.

Courageously exploring social, political, spiritual, global and environmental issues, it is the first and only such magazine in Australia and one of only a few in the world."

For more information about the latest issue and to subscribe please visit the Kindred Magazine website 

Subscribe to Kindred Magazine's between issues newsletter Kindred Spirit

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Natural Child News

The Natural Child Project's free monthly newsletter.

Subscribe to Natural Child News here   

Connection Parenting

A standout book by parent educator Pam Leo recommended by the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children.   

"Connection parenting is parenting through connection instead of coercion, through love instead of fear."

Get all the details at

Heart To Heart Parenting

A new book from Robin Grille, author of Parenting For A Peaceful World.

"An empowering book for parents, Heart to Heart Parenting is more than just a 'how to' book about raising happy and resilient children - it aims to help you create a deep and lasting relationship that is unique to you and your child. Using techniques that are based on connection rather than shaming, manipulation or punishment, Robin Grille introduces you to insightful and practical ways to benefit your child's emotional wellbeing and development."

Find out more here

Circumcision - Why it's not good for boys

Kali Wendorf, Editor of Kindred Magazine, interviews John W. Travis, MD., co-founder of the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children (aTLC), on the subject of Circumcision.

A Kindred Media podcast

Parent Pods: 'Just What We Need'

"On 15th December, MindField College Principal Ivan Tyrrell, is giving a free 3-hour talk entitled 'Just What We Need: The importance of helping parents to help their children create lives that work'. He will explain why good parenting depends on the quality of physical and emotional nourishment each child receives from the environment and the human givens framework that Nature gave us to make this possible. He will also explore the role of the REM state in processing feedback from the environment and the evolutionary reason why each child needs a strong self-concept. He will also make the case that, if this were understood and attended to more effectively by families, schools and society generally, children would have far fewer developmental and emotional problems."

For more information about Parent Pods, please visit:

NLP: A Birth Model for Change

"The current model of birth is as deep a belief structure as the structure of our very nature. Trusting your body, trusting your mind and trusting your baby are entirely new concepts in the birthing world today. Making changes at this very core level takes skill and dedication.

In this two-part workshop series, Kathy Welter-Nichols will introduce participants to a number of new technologies and science models that support gentle birthing practices, and explain why fear is so deeply enhanced through suggestion during birth."

More about that here

Healing from Trauma (Resources to Help Children Heal)

A list of recommended reading for helping children heal from traumatic experiences compiled by Conscious Woman presenter Stephanie Mines, Ph.D.

Visit the Conscious Woman website for details

Freedom of Expression: Supporting Breastfeeding Moms in the Workplace

"Cate Colburn-Smith , co-author of the book The Milk Memos and expert on breastfeeding in corporate America, will present Freedom of Expression - Supporting Breastfeeding Moms in the Workplace, an informative, inspiring session for employers and breastfeeding mothers who choose to express milk while working outside the home."

Also at Conscious Woman

Interview with Lysa Parker, co-founder of Attachment Parenting International

Lysa Parker interviewed by Andrea McCann of Simple Things as part of her series of interviews that feature baby-wearing related charities.

Visit the Simple Things website for the complete interview

How far did you roam as a child?

A fascinating account from Australian history teacher John Larkin of his childhood in Bellambi, New South Wales, and how it compares to the "cotton wool culture" of modern childhood.

Please visit John Larkin's blog for the full story

Stop Child Abuse Now Campaign

"The Australian Childhood Foundation and Child Abuse Prevention Research Australia at Monash University are set to launch two important outcomes for Australian children.

At 1.00pm on Tuesday 18th November at BMW Edge, Federation Square, Hon Jenny Macklin, Minister for Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs will launch the findings of a research report about the Cost of Child Abuse in Australia undertaken by Access Economics, Australian Childhood Foundation and Child Abuse Prevention Research Australia at Monash University.

The Australian Childhood Foundation will also present its new Stop Child Abuse Now Campaign - a new national community education campaign."

The new campaign and a downloadable copy of the research report will be available after the launch at the campaign website:

The Diseasing of America's Children

"How parents, teachers, and even professionals are being deceived by the "ADHD Establishment" regarding ADHD and other childhood behavior disorders and the drugs used to treat them.

The issue of diagnosing children with behavioral diseases that do not conform to a scientific definition of disease, and then medicating them is a scandal ready to erupt. In The Diseasing of America's Children, popular family psychologist, speaker, and best-selling author John Rosemond joins with pediatrician Dr. Bose Ravenel to uncover the fiction and fallacy behind attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder ..."

Read more about the book here

Generation RX

A short trailer for a documentary about the culture of administering psychiatric drugs to children to control their behaviour. 1min 25secs.

Watch the video on YouTube

KOG 1000 Shades of Gray

The Kern Association of School Psychologists in California recognises Dr. John Breeding of Wildest Colts as one of its Heroes of Education, takes a quick look at quantum mechanics, explains the difference between the Scientific Method and Research-Based Interventions and wonders why after 30 years of assiduous research nobody has come up with any proof of the existence of "ADHD".

Get all the details in the KOG November newsletter

Schooled: The Film

"Schooled is an earthy character study about a teacher in crisis who discovers a shockingly alternative school that teaches him to connect with kids as people."

Find out more at the official website

Unschooling Channel

"AERO [Alternative Education Resource Organization] member Dr. Carlo Ricci has created the Unschooling Channel on YouTube in an attempt to spread the unschooling message.  If you subscribe to the Unschooling Channel's videos you will be notified of future episodes that will be added."

Please visit

Please also take the time to visit AERO's YouTube channel at:

And finally ...

The way they say your name is different

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget. When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." - Megan Jo Eberhart, 5 years old.

Here she is

With thanks to Sandra Dodd

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