June 2008

Hi, this is Bob Collier inviting you to 'explore the psychology of happy and successful parenting', connect with bright minds, discover new ideas and sail outside the mainstream for a while without running aground.

All that and more.

In this month's issue of the Parental Intelligence Newsletter there are links to 18 articles and 20 notices and items of news. As always, I trust you will find in my latest collection of parenting, education and personal development ideas and information from around the internet something that will make a positive difference to your life - and, through you, to the lives of your children.

Please scroll down to pick and choose whatever is of interest and useful to you.

Thank you for being here! I appreciate this opportunity to be of help to you in your parenting adventure and wish you all the happiness and success you would wish yourself.

See you next month!



The Wellspring

An introduction from John W. (Jack) Travis, MD, MPH, and Meryn G. Callander to what will become one of the web's most valuable wellness resources: TheWellspring.com

John W. Travis is the pioneering physician who first brought the term "wellness" into public awareness, launching a movement that has swept the world.

"At The Wellspring you will find the full text of our best-selling Wellness Workbook, as well as Simply Well, in bite-size morsels on over 400 separate pages. You will also find much of our Wellness for Helping Professionals, and a wealth of material covering wellness from conception through childhood.
Coming Soon

The full text of A Change of Heart: The Global Wellness Inventory, more chapters from Wellness for Helping Professionals, and a doubling of the family/child section, plus our forthcoming Why Men Leave: The Epidemic of  Disappearing Dads. We'll also be adding an e-news, guest author articles, forums, and other interactive features.
Full-Spectrum Wellness

After Jack founded the first wellness center in the United States (1975), we continued to push the leading edge of wellness, incorporating  infant/child, adult, societal, and planetary dimensions, through the 1990s. We have now integrated all this work into the concept of  full-spectrum wellness.

Full-spectrum wellness reflects our multi-dimensional approach to health and wellbeing. Full-spectrum wellness is about the connections between our state of wellbeing and our:

·     body, emotions, mind, and spirit

·     earliest life experiences and our health over our entire lifespan

·     family, friends, and community

·     personal and our work-life

·     environment-from home, to neighborhood, to the entire planet.

This global website will bring the concept and practice of full-spectrum wellness to hundreds of thousands more people-and contribute to the consciousness that is awakening across the planet.

For more information, please visit TheWellspring.com


A Child gives Birth to the Man
by Michael M. Murray

As a child of the fifties, my idea of childbirth came from old American sitcoms. The mother is closeted away, the father chain-smokes pacing the hospital waiting room. After some magical process, a nurse displays a neat bundle from behind a glass screen. Surrounding the nurse is a sea of similar little bundles. The proud father then goes to a bar where he hands out cigars and is patted on the back by his mates. Tobacco had a major role in the birthing ritual back then.

I'm now in my fifties and just had my first child. My partner who is in her mid thirties chose the home birth option.

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Thank You, Edwina
by Laureen Hudson

La Leche League founder Edwina Froehlich died last Sunday. She was 93.

I am completely devastated. Edwina pretty much embodied everything I admire in an activist. And also proved that even if you come late to your passion, you can change the world.

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Attachment And Separation: What Everyone Should Know
by Dr. Peter Cook

Many human troubles would be lessened if the emotional needs of infants and young children were better understood in our society. This applies particularly to attachment needs and the effects of separating infants from their parents.

Can you imagine how you might feel if you were happily married, and your partner suddenly disappeared for a week or two, and then reappeared without explanation, expecting to carry on as if nothing had happened? And what if he or she were holding someone else? Many toddlers have been in a situation like this when their mothers had a new baby. Infants, by definition, are children who are too young to talk, and they cannot understand the future when repeatedly told that "Mummy will come back soon".

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Parenting the Socrates Way (part 1)
by Ronit Baras

There is a period in children's development when they ask questions in response to everything you say. I remember the "Why" as my kids' way of learning. ...

Questioning is an excellent way to gain understanding and knowledge of each other, of ourselves and the world around us. According to Oxford English, to question is "The action of inquiring or asking. The starting or investigating of a problem: inquiry into a matter. To inquire or seek after". As parents, we can use questions in two ways to improve our relationships and further our understanding of our kids.

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The fallacy of some child care arguments
by Alok O'Brien

Daily we are told that mums would all be back at work if only they had childcare.

This raises a few issues - yes, mums want to rejoin the world post childbirth, and for many mums career is very important, and mostly it is the mum who faces the choice of home or work. (Perhaps it is the dad who stays at home...) OK, that is fine, but there are a few assumptions that need to be tested.

What is the point of having kids if you are going to get someone else to raise them?

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5 Ways to Raise Joyful Kids
by Mimi Doe

Raising joyous children is easier than you might think. An "all is right with the world" kind of happiness is deeper and more penetrating than a new toy or a bag of gummy worms.  Genuine joy nurtures your children's spirits now and gives them the ability to access that joy for the rest of their lives.

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Would You Say "No" to Violence Against Children?
by Ronit Baras

I was at a meeting with the editorial staff and my colleagues at Insight Magazine and we talked about "The Secret". The discussion was about the way this movie (and book) had brought awareness to many people. Some said "The Secret" focused too much on material gains and that it made people do silly things (like selling everything, buying a lottery ticket and trying to attract the jackpot into their life). Still, everyone agreed "The Secret" offered a great explanation of the law of attraction and the power of language.

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The ADHD Scam and the Mass Drugging of Schoolchildren
by Mike Adams

Today I am bringing you news from the world of ADHD, because scientists claim they have found a difference in the brains of children with ADHD versus "normal" children. The brains of these children who have been diagnosed with ADHD were scanned with an MRI machine. They compared 40,000 different points in their brains looking for signs of thickness in the brain tissue.

They discovered that the brains of children diagnosed with ADHD were a little behind schedule in growing. Yes, you heard that right. They said they are about three years behind the brains of other children. Everything else was normal. They said if they wait three years those children will catch up and turn out just fine.

Now who is "they?"

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Life Without Labels: How to Rediscover the World
by Peter Clemens

Life is a miracle. And yet so many of us have become deadened to this simple idea. We mistakenly believe that because we know the word for items - a bird, a tree, a stone, a human being, etc - that we actually know these items. Nothing could be further from the truth. Even the most common everyday items hold unfathomable depth ...

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The QI equation for an enriched IQ
from The Sunday Times

Could an educational revolution come about as the result of a television quiz show? Unlikely, perhaps - but underneath the amiable silliness of BBC2's QI lurks a radical remit.

And in the week after Chris Parry, the new head of the Independent Schools Council, made an outspoken attack on the state school system, it is surely worth looking at an unorthodox new approach to learning.

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A Short History of Home Education
by Mike Fortune-Wood

Home education has always been common among the country's elite. The Royal Family have all in the past been educated at home, including the current Queen, though more recently royalty have attended various public schools.

Prior to the mid nineteenth century there were few schools open to average families. Some churches and the occasional enlightened employer provided primary education, but provision was patchy at best. However, since the advent of compulsory education in the UK in the 1870s and secondary education in the twentieth century, home education became increasingly rare among the population at large.

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Young Minds, Fast Times: The Twenty-First-Century Digital Learner
by Marc Prensky

I give presentations to educators at every level, all around the world. All of the teachers are earnestly trying to adapt their educational system to the twenty-first century. During my talks, however, I typically look out at oceans of white hair. Never -- I can't even say rarely -- is a kid in sight or invited to the party.

It is a measure of the malaise of our educational system that these old folk -- smart and experienced as they may be -- think they can, by themselves and without the input of the people they're trying to teach, design the future of education.

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Parents unsure about kids' digital media use
from eSchool News

American parents agreed by a wide margin that digital media skills are important to kids' success in the 21st century, but they also expressed skepticism about whether digital media could contribute to the development of skills such as communicating, working with others, and establishing civic responsibility, according to a new national poll from Common Sense Media and the Joan Ganz Cooney Center.

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Net of Fear
by Monica Hamburg

I grew up severely overprotected in some respects. My parents were afraid of everything (in their defence, they grew up in Hungary (Eastern Europe), during an extremely volatile, war-centric period and dealt with severe religious persecution). Their constant message was that the world and its people were horrible, and that you could trust no one and do nothing. As a result, it is easy to imagine the things I did once I left home. I regret none of my experiences (though I am surprised I managed  to survive a few situations), but I cringe when I see people limit and dominate their children's experience.

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Another Naysayer Stirs the Pot
by David Warlick

Mark Bauerlein is a tenured humanities professor at Emory University, and he has just published a new book, The Dumbest Generation.  In a podcast interview, conducted by Texas educator, Tim Holt, for Intended Consequences, Bauerlein said that the thesis of his book is simple, that,

    ..teenagers and young adults, in America today, are drowning in a tidal wave of teen, youth, stuff, delivered through digital tools, and the adult realities of history, civics, foreign affairs, politics, and fine arts can't break through.

I couldn't agree more, though I don't blame the technology.

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Computer games as liberal arts?
by David Kirkpatrick, Senior Editor, Fortune Magazine

Though many adults imagine the frightening Grand Theft Auto when they think of video games, kids appear to be subtler thinkers on the subject. Not only do many of them intuitively realize that games can embody any values and be on any subject, many want to make games themselves.

That was my big takeaway from the fourth annual Games For Change conference held in New York. I moderated a session there on Youth-Created Games for Change, something I confess I knew next to nothing about before this week.

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A Manifesto for the Childlike
by Jason Kotecki

When Club K&J was first conceived, it was pretty much a modest fan club for people who liked my comic strip, "Kim & Jason."

Little did I know that it was the seed for something much greater, and much more important.

Over the past several years, as Kim and I have criss-crossed the country to share our ideas with people that are stressed-out, burned-out, and busy, I have begun to grasp the gravity of our mission.

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How hypnosis helps people stop smoking
by Roger Elliott

Hypnosis, when used well, is a highly effective tool for helping and curing diverse conditions from clinical depression to post traumatic stress disorder and even physical conditions like warts and burns.

But the public have a strong association with the use of hypnosis for curing something else. Something that kills around 5,000,000 people a year, that incapacitates and ages the body and brain, that destroys sex drive and yet whose victims pay for the privilege, spending tens of thousands of pounds over the course of an ever shortening life span.

So why it is that millions of people are prepared to throw away their lives for cigarettes? What is it about the human brain, otherwise set up for survival, that makes seemingly sensible people puff away their heart function, healthy cells, energy, virility and fertility as well as their time and money? Why would anyone do this?

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How I Parent

A short and hopefully useful instantly downloadable e-book about how I parent my own children.

Read more about that here

Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement

Be sure to download your FREE copy of my Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement e-books while you're here if you haven't done so already.

There are two volumes so far. These e-books are FREE with my compliments and are packed with valuable insights and useful ideas to help you in your parenting adventure.

Volume 1 - an introduction to the work of Michael Mendizza, Robin Grille, Laura Ramirez, Jan Hunt, Pam Leo, Pat and Larry Downing, Alfie Kohn, Marc Prensky, Kali Wendorf and Jan Fortune-Wood:

Download it from here

Volume 2 - an introduction to the work of Aletha Solter, Kim Wildner, Naomi Aldort, John Travis and Meryn Callander, John Breeding, Scott Noelle, Beverley Paine and Alan Wilson

Download it from here

Kindred Magazine

In the latest issue of Kindred magazine:

When someone you love dies
Death through the eyes of a child
The natural birth/death connection
Still Born
Growing a Community
Creating a School/Community Garden
The Fluoride Debate: are we poisoning our kids?
The Northern Territory Intervention
Many Hands: Creating parental support
Adopting an older child: a woman's journey

For more information and to subscribe please visit the Kindred Magazine website

Kindred Magazine on Facebook

Natural Child News

In the latest issue of the Natural Child Project newsletter:

Quote of the Month: "The best-kept secret in child psychology is that children who were never spanked are among the best behaved." - Murray Straus, Ph.D
New Article: "When it all Falls Apart: Toddlers, Tantrums and Turmoil" by Lauren Lindsey Porter
AP Research: Omega-3 intake in pregnancy boosts infant development
AP Research: Benefits of delaying cord clamping
"The Baby Borrowers" letter-writing campaign: Jan Hunt has written an open letter to NBC to protest their new show, "The Baby Borrowers", scheduled to start on June 25.  Please read Jan's letter, and if you are also concerned, write to NBC and ask others to do the same.
Jan Hunt's first book, The Natural Child: Parenting From the Heart is now available on Audio CD (3 discs) at www.naturalchild.org/book/audio
The Natural Child Project gift shop offers many unique items for celebrating compassionate parenting: www.naturalchild.org/shop
The Unschooling Unmanual, co-edited by Jan Hunt and her always-unschooled son Jason, is now available. The book offers inspiration and encouragement for both seasoned and prospective unschoolers, and a compelling introduction to learning  and unschooling. To read reviews or to order the booklet, visit www.naturalchild.org/unmanual
Parenting Card of the Month
Telephone counseling worldwide, with a special focus on attachment parenting and unschooling
AP Directory now includes 108 families

Subscribe to Natural Child News here   

Connection Parenting

A standout book by parent educator Pam Leo recommended by the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children.   

"Connection parenting is parenting through connection instead of coercion, through love instead of fear."


The complete book is now on audio CD, read by the author.


Sign up for Pam Leo's newsletter Connecting Connection Parents:

Click here and scroll down

Homeschool Australia Newsletter

In the June 2008 issue:

* What's New on Homeschool Australia? - links to our latest articles
* Quick Notes - another brilliant insight from Fruitful
* Invitation to Educational or Homeschool Suppliers ... Advertise on
Homeschool Australia!
* Homeschooling in the News, News and Issues! 5 items
* Feedback on the Adelaide Exploring Approaches to Homeschool Seminar
* Building Homeschool Community - 9 items
* What's New at Always Learning Books
* Have Some Fun with this Very Tricky Arithmetic!
* Homeschool Australia FAQ: feeling confident writing unschooling
learning programs in the early years
* Home Education Camps

Download and read at: ha-magazine.beverleypaine.com/2008/june.html

12th International Conference on Rethinking Education

Thursday, September 4 - Monday, September 8, 2008

Westin Park Central Hotel, 20 minutes from Dallas-Fort Worth airport in Dallas, Texas, USA

You are enthusiastically invited to attend!

"Join hundreds of unschooling families from around the globe as we rethink the meanings of education, learning, parenting...and life! Rethinking Education supports attachment parenting, unconditional love, support for each person's unique journey of life experience, freedom with responsibility, unschooling and you. YOU are the vital ingredient at this conference, as we come together and revel in the magic and mystery of kindred spirits and each other's rich diversity, as we challenge ourselves to trust the extraordinary process of living and learning, the wondrous ability to improve the ways we communicate, discovering new ways of listening to one another, giving full support to our dreams, no matter how wild or ordinary, large or small."

I have been invited to contribute to this year's Conference and will be running three discussion groups: Full-Time Fatherhood, Secrets of a Happy Family, Unschooling and the Digital Revolution.

Please visit the Rethinking Education Conference website for more information about this exciting event!

Michael Mendizza Interviews Marshall Rosenberg

A slightly edited interview with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, founder and director of educational services for the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), and author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, conducted by Michael Mendizza of Touch the Future in April 2000.

Read the transcript of the interview here

Keepers of the Children: Native American Wisdom and Parenting

A book by Laura M. Ramirez.

"In Keepers of the Children, Laura Ramirez uses little known Native American wisdom and teaching stories to show parents how to raise children to know their nature, develop their strengths and create lives of meaning and contribution. By giving your child the tools to create genuine happiness, you give the greatest gift of all."

Watch the video to learn more

Without Boundaries

Consent based, non coercive parenting and autonomous learning

A book by Jan Fortune-Wood.

"Unimpeded growth of knowledge requires both a vastly increased definition of education and an abandoning of coercive parenting practices. Without Boundaries substantively expands on this theme, arguing that both in theory and in practice coercion is not only destructive of personal autonomy, but also inimical to learning and the growth of knowledge."

Read more about the book here

The Natural Birth Education & Research Centre

The Natural Birth Education & Research Centre is located in Lismore, New South Wales, Australia.

Take the tour on YouTube

First Natural Birth Conference

17-19 October 2008

Get the details of that here

I bet I can find one million babies born safe and sound at home

A Facebook group I belong to. Both of my children were born naturally with only a midwife in attendance. My daughter in the Birth Centre in Sydney, my son at home in London.

"This group is aimed at erradicating the fear that we have been conditioned with about childbirth. If we can find one million babies that have been born safely at home, then perhaps people will see that homebirth can be safe."

If you're on Facebook, you can find out more about this group here

Blissful Birth

Another Facebook group I belong to.

"A group for those who have had a blissful birth or would like to learn more. If you are having a baby, you're in the right place! Doulas, midwives, birth junkies, passionate mamas and dadas, jump on in! If you've been buying into the myth that childbirth is generally horrific, get ready for a joyful revelation!! Join us on the journey to Blissful Birth."

If you're on Facebook, you can find out more about the Blissful Birth group here

Neuro-Linguistic Programming And Parenthood - An Interview With Keith Gilbert

Natural parenting writer Jodie Miller interviews Keith Gilbert (Grad.Cert.NLP), the author and presenter of Neuro-Linguistic Parenting; a workshop on how to apply Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to Parenting. Keith also runs his own counselling and life coaching practice using NLP.

Read the transcript of the interview here

Joyous Learning

"Our online community is a wonderful mix of homeschoolers, unschoolers, natural learners and everything inbetween. We draw strength from sharing our experiences, resources and ideas, and provide support and information to those already on the path, and to those who are seeking to inform themselves of their education options."

Visit the Joyous Learning Website

Home Ed Connect

"Home Ed Connect is a new Yahoo! group that has been formed with the aim to help those who feel isolated to make connections with others. This group is all inclusive, that is, all home educating philosophies and all personal belief systems are welcome here.

This is not a discussion list, as such, but rather a list for making introductions with a view to making e-pals or looking for like-minded folks in your local area. New members who seek to make online friendships can post an introduction."

For more information, go to groups.yahoo.com/group/HomeEdConnect/

Deschooling Gently

"Hunt Press is pleased to announce the release of Deschooling Gently by Tammy Takahashi.

With the recent ruling on homeschooling in California, Deschooling Gently is a much needed and refreshingly drama-free view on how to make the transition from School with a capital S, to homeschool, including directions and information on how to get educated on the laws governing homeschooling in your state.

Deschooling Gently
will help you whether you are new to homeschooling, or if you are experienced, but are in need of new approaches. Discover the best way to educate your children at home, not through rote process, but by learning how to find the answer within yourself."

For all the details please visit huntpress.com


"Unschoold.com is a new social networking website for unschoolers everywhere. It's a place for unschoolers to meet, play, inspire and be inspired.  All members can have a blog, and can create groups that are public or private.  Upcoming features include the ability to have meet-ups and other events, and there are always new things afoot.  Registration is free, so join today!"


And finally ...

Brain Rules

12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and School

"Brain Rules is more than a book. It's a multimedia project."

"In Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina, a molecular biologist, shares his lifelong interest in how the brain sciences might influence the way we teach our children and the way we work. In each chapter, he describes a brain rule-what scientists know for sure about how our brains work-and then offers transformative ideas for our daily lives."

Here are the chapter headings and the 12 rules:

Exercise - Rule #1: Exercise boosts brain power.
Survival - Rule #2: The human brain evolved, too.
Wiring - Rule #3: Every brain is wired differently.
Attention - Rule #4: We don't pay attention to boring things.
Short-Term Memory - Rule #5: Repeat to remember.
Long-Term Memory - Rule #6: Remember to repeat.
Sleep - Rule #7: Sleep well, think well.
Stress - Rule #8: Stressed brains don't learn the same way.
Sensory Integration - Rule #9: Stimulate more of the senses.
Vision - Rule #10: Vision trumps all other senses.
Gender - Rule #11: Male and female brains are different.
Exploration - Rule #12: We are powerful and natural explorers.

Get all the exciting details at www.brainrules.net!

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