The Parental Intelligence Newsletter

April 2008

Hi, this is Bob Collier inviting you to 'explore the psychology of happy and successful parenting', connect with bright minds, discover new ideas and sail outside the mainstream for a while without running aground.

All that and more.

In this month's issue of the Parental Intelligence Newsletter there are links to 31 articles and 21 notices and items of news. As always, I trust you will find in my latest collection of parenting, education and personal development ideas and information from around the internet something that will make a positive difference to your life - and, through you, to the lives of your children.

Please scroll down to pick and choose whatever is of interest and useful to you.

Thank you for being here! I appreciate this opportunity to be of help to you in your parenting adventure and wish you all the happiness and success you would wish yourself.

See you next month!



"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and judgment. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change." - Thich Nhat Hanh


The Parent Taboo
by Michael Mendizza

Parenting is transient. Pregnancy morphs into birth. One transforms into two. Each age and stage opens a new threshold to something unknown and unexpected for the child and for the parent. The skills used to meet the needs of a three year old are completely different at five. The environment is also changing, as dramatically as our children. This demands that parents reinvent themselves, in different ways, right along with their children. But they don't.

Parenting today is more challenging than ever before. Changing lifestyles, new information, fragmented families, economic challenges, more to do, less time all confront traditional parenting models. Developing the right skills quickly, hopefully ahead of schedule, is best. Books and DVDs can help. Wisdom however, demands experience. Today's parents must be explosive, agile learners, just like their children. But they are not.

Behind our future-shocked excuses lays an invisible force that prevents many, if not most, from mastering the art of parenting as one might master a sport or craft. There is a Parenting Taboo and it must be broken.

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The Zen of Parenting
by Amanda Morin

"Present with presence." That's how Frumet Raskin-Miller describes being a mindful parent. In our busy, micromanaged lives it's sometimes hard to appreciate the overall joys of children and parenting. Being a parent is hard work; it takes planning, scheduling and negotiating and we often find ourselves so wrapped up in the details of what's coming next that we don't notice what's happening right now.

As both an Early Childhood Special Educator and a devoted meditator, Raskin-Milller sees the power of applying the principles of mindfulness to child-rearing. "From a very simple place," she says, "taking a moment to be mindful when your kid is acting up or needs a serious conversation, gives you a chance to unhook from the drama, see more clearly, and act from a place of deeper wisdom and compassion." Taking that moment to be mindful is, however, more than just a parenting technique.

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It's Not the Child
by Stephanie

I find that the longer I homeschool, the more paradigm shifts I have. One of the most reassuring shifts I have had is that if my child is struggling with something, he either is not ready to learn it and needs more time or the information is not being presented in a way that makes sense to him and he needs a different approach. Either way, the problem is not with my child.

In school we get the message that there is a specific set of information that every child of a particular age must and should know. The interesting thing is that no one seems to be able to agree on what that is.

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Can you really teach compassion? New study says yes.
by Jonathan Fields

How can you teach a kid compassion?

I've had this discussion with my wife many times. Is there some experience or exercise you can expose kids (and adults) to on a regular basis? Is there something we can do or see? Can we volunteer at a shelter, take a trip to help build a bridge somewhere or bring food to elderly neighbors?

All these seem live viable options, but is there something else we can do, some daily practice that can literally install or bump up compassion? Turns out, breaking research from researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison say yes!

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Mita's Girl: A Tale of Too Much Ice Cream and More Kindness Than Your Heart Can Hold
by Jen Lemen

This evening we celebrated the end of the school year with a big bright Carnival on the blacktop in the school parking lot. The Ethiopian moms brought samosas and big bowls of hot, spicy lentils. The Latina moms brought huge sheets of cake with sticky sweet frosting, and all the rest of us white mothers on Weight Watchers brought leafy green salads and then spent the evening eating anything but. The kids, of course, ignored it all-opting instead to stand in long lines for the ice cream truck parked out front or the cotton candy machine tucked away in the back of the playground. Even all the activity in the Moonbounce could not counteract the amazing amounts of sugar consumed in one short hour.

As things were winding down, I ran into Mita-a thirty-something young woman who won the diversity lottery and emigrated here from Bangladesh a few years ago with her husband Sadat and two boys.

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Breastfeeding gets image overhaul
by Heather Weldon, The Guardian (UK)

Campaigns and strategies to encourage breastfeeding have multiplied over the past 20 years or so - yet survey after survey shows younger women from working-class backgrounds are far more likely than their older, middle-class counterparts to ignore them all, opting for formula from the start. In the UK, statistics show 76% of women start breastfeeding, but for mothers under 20, mothers, it's just 52%. Mothers who are not from mangerial or professional backgrounds are twice as likely to give formula from birth.

It's a gap in the statistics that has engaged health promoters, healthcare professionals and volunteer breastfeeding supporters, and a new social marketing campaign in Lancashire thinks it has found the way to close it.

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Thank you for that item to John W. Travis of aTLC

A Natural Age of Weaning
by Katherine Dettwyler, PhD

My research has looked at the various "life-history" variables (such as length of gestation, birth weight, growth rate, age at sexual maturity, age at eruption of teeth, life span, etc.) in non-human primates and then looked at how these variables correlate with age at weaning in these animals. These are our closest relatives in the animal kingdom, especially gorillas and chimpanzees, who share more than 98% of their genes with humans. I came up with a number of predictions for when humans would "naturally" wean their children if they didn't have a lot of cultural rules about it. This interest stemmed from a reading of the cross-cultural literature on age at weaning, which shows that cultures have very different beliefs about when children should be weaned, from very early in the U.S. to very late in some places.

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Thank you for that item to Pam Tellew via Always Learning

Is your high-powered job setting your kids up to fail?
by Jonathan Fields

I would do anything to create the best life possible for my daughter. Heck, we all want the best for our kids. It's one of the reasons we work so hard.

But is the way we're working truly setting our kids up for the best possible future?

If you're slaving away at a job, even a well-paid job, that funds college accounts and buys nice things, but summarily empties your soul and steals your presence from the family, the answer is a resounding no.

Simple fact - being there counts even more than money.

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Confessions from a Recovering Father
by Alex Blackwell

I wish I could have a mulligan, a do-over, with being a father. I wish I could go back in time about 12 years and start again. I would have done it differently. I would have been a better father.

Last week was spring break for Kansas University. Caitlin, who will be nineteen-years-old in about a month, used her time off from class to accompany me to New York City. I attended meetings during the day, but my daughter and I were able to spend time together in the evening. It was a great six days. I hope Caitlin would agree.

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Parenting With Purpose: This I Believe
by Millionaire Mommy Next Door

If you've been reading my blog for any length of time, you know by now that I don't believe money is the biggest determination of a meaningful and joyful life. Success and happiness come from within, and more importantly, they take practice.

While eagerly waiting for our adoption referral from China, we gave much thought to parenting. How would we raise our daughter to be strong and independent; sensitive and thoughtful; curious and happy? How might we help her learn that life's obstacles are not concrete barriers?

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What Do You Want To Do When You Grow Up?
by Millionaire Mommy Next Door

Do you remember the answer you used to give? Are you doing it? If not, why not?

Over the years, people often told me that I was lucky: I was my own boss, working at things I felt passionately about. But I don't think it was luck. A few influential people encouraged me at an early age to follow my passions. And I did. They told me that I could do anything I set my mind to do. And I did. They believed in me. And I did, too.

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6 Concepts You Must Teach Your Child Before Age 18 (Part 1 of 6): Personal Finance
by Kevin Geary

How important is personal finance in your life?  If you were terrible with money, how would that change your current situation?

Money management is probably one of the biggest subjects they don't teach you in school.  And I'm miffed at why they don't.

In elementary school they teach you about different types of money; this is a quarter, this is a dollar, this is a dime, etc. But what about the rest of it?  What about balancing checkbooks, investing, and credit cards?

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Are Girls Too Image Conscious?
by Vanessa Van Petten

I recently discovered Sweet and and, was at first, a little horrified to see (what looks like 5 year-old) girls putting on lots of make-up, celebrating expensive clothes and fashion-materialism at its greatest! Sweet and Sassy is a salon that hosts birthday parties for girls. It seems that teen, tween and really young girls are becoming super body conscious.

Even though I scoffed at Sweet and Sassy off the bat and began to write a post about the downfall of girl's self-esteem, I started to think about it and realized that the Glamour party culture and ideals might be better than the alternatives.

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Media Literacy: Collaborating to Create Media-Savvy Young People
by Sara Armstrong, Milton Chen and Roberta Furger

When it comes to media, our children are mass consumers.

On average, each of them spends 1,500 hours a year watching television. Roughly 17 million children and teens have Internet access in their homes, and most of them use it daily for everything from researching school projects to playing online games to sending instant messages or chatting with their classmates. They go to movies and watch music videos. Headphones and CD players have become so much a part of the middle and high school students' "uniform" that backpacks are now designed to accommodate the gear.

But for all their exposure to mass media, American youth and teens spend precious little time analyzing the messages they're bombarded with every day.

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After assembly, switch on your Nintendo
by Alexandra Frean and Leo Lewis

It is a school child's dream. Primary pupils are being encouraged to play on Nintendo DS consoles in class to boost their cognitive skills.

Under a scheme being tested on 900 pupils in 16 primary schools in Scotland, children are being given the hand-held computer games devices for free and encouraged to start their day by doing "brain training" exercises.

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Canadian university faces off with digital generation
from Reuters

A Canadian university has instilled a culture of fear by threatening to expel a student for cheating because he set up an online study group on Facebook, critics said this week.

Toronto's Ryerson University threatened to expel first-year computer engineering student Chris Avenir last week, arguing that his study group on the Facebook networking site might encourage cheating.

Ryerson decided to lift the expulsion threat on Tuesday, but Avenir will get zero credits for the course work discussed on the Facebook forum last autumn, and the university has put a disciplinary notice on his record.

Canadian media analyst Jesse Hirsh said Ryerson's actions send the wrong message to students, most of whom spend a lot of their time on the Internet.

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Students want more use of gaming technology
by Meris Stansbury, Assistant Editor, eSchool News

Educators are largely missing out on what could be a huge opportunity to capitalize on their students' appetite for electronic games and simulations to teach them about core curriculum topics, results from a new national survey suggest.

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Outsmarting the experts
by Brandy Centolanza

A marker, a light bulb and batteries might save hundreds of dollars on technology equipment for local classrooms - or at least one of them.

That's what members of Clara Byrd Baker Elementary School's Lego Club in James City County discovered recently when the school's computer resource specialist, Kofi Merritt, challenged them to create their own multi-touch whiteboard tool.

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Technophilia: Get a free college education online
by Wendy Boswell

Not headed back to school this fall? You could be, minus the exorbitant tuition and without even leaving your chair. The web has made it easier than ever before to get a free education, and you'd join the ranks of great thinkers in history who were also self-taught, like Joseph Conrad, Albert Einstein, Alexander Graham Bell, Paul Allen, Agatha Christie and Ernest Hemingway. You, too, can be an autodidact; the breadth of free educational materials available online is absolutely astonishing.

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How To Spark Remote Learning
by Bonnie Ruberg

"Second Life," the online world that brings players together from across the globe to socialize, shop and even fly, is developing a second career as a hot spot for learning English as a second language (ESL).

It's a classic innovation--a novel way to use a tool created for an entirely different purpose, namely to have a good time. That's still the reason why most players come to "Second Life," but English-language instructors who spend time with students there say they're combining fun and learning--and getting excellent results.

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Online safety begins with parents, not laws and government
by John Timmer

In 2007, the British Prime Minister commissioned an independent review of how parents and children are being affected by the rise of new technology, such as increased access to the Internet and gaming consoles. Dr. Tanya Byron, a psychologist with experience in child behavior, led the review, and spent several months exploring the research literature and meeting with parents, children, and industry leaders. The results of the work have now been released in a report that makes comprehensive recommendations regarding the role the government can play in helping parents make technology a safe and effective part of their child's development.


Thank you for that item to Vanessa Van Petten

Parents: Severed heads in games bad for kids; sex is worse
by Ben Kuchera

Ratings on video games are an important part of making sure the art form is able to grow up. The more information given to consumers and parents about what is in a game, the less likely that game will wind up in the hands of someone who isn't old enough to play it. The question of which children should be playing what games is ultimately an open one; the ratings are merely guidelines, and parents have the final say about what their children play - exactly how it should be. So what are parents concerned about when looking at what games to buy for their children? An unscientific poll on What They Play suggests that parents have a few hot-button issues but are most concerned about sex. Reports from those on the front lines of the gaming retail industry support the poll results.

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Thank you for that item to Pat Collier (that's my son :))

Cell Phones Bad For Your Health - Again
by Christopher Nickson, Digital Trends News

We've heard the pros and cons before, but a new Australian study claims cell phones could be worse for your health than smoking or asbestos.

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Alone in the Parade
by Joshua Freedman

Even though it's billed as "The World's Shortest Parade" (under 1/4 mile) the Aptos 4th of July parade takes over two hours because of the myriad marchers -- from the Ukulele crew to the giant pigeon to the few remaining World War veterans.  This year's parade had an accidental entry, a picture I can't get out of my head.

Imagine a small town street thronged with crowds and hundreds of people in a parade -- flags waving and cheering.

Now imagine a teenage girl walking with one of the groups. She's a little apart from the team, looking a bit lost and alone, and she is talking on her cell phone, desperately trying to connect, oblivious to all the real people around her.

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The Future of Education
by Win Wenger, PhD.

One of the missions of Project Renaissance is to raise consciousness about the inadequacies of the traditional school system and its entrenched approach to education, which has squandered the gifts and potentialities of generations of human beings.

The philosophy and methods developed by Project Renaissance in over a third of a century are dedicated to maximizing each student's innate capabilities and untapped resources for faster, easier learning, deeper understanding, greater creativity and inspired problem-solving, while adding depth and richness to every facet of their lives.

Here are the major articles in this website exploring alternative educational models based on Socratic and Einsteinian principles. Please read them, and join with us to help bring about a better future.

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Homeschooling: A Growing Option in American Education
by Dan Lips and Evan Feinberg

A growing number of American families are choosing to homeschool their children. The U.S. Department of Education's National Center for Education Statistics reports that approximately 1.1 million children (2.2 percent of school-age children) were being educated at home as of 2003-29 percent more than the 850,000 students who were being homeschooled in 1998. Another estimate projects that 2 million or more children may be homeschooling.

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Career Advice from a Comic Book
by Susan Berfield

What most Americans know of manga, those stylized Japanese comics, is that the stories are fantastical, edgy, and defiantly indifferent to most anyone past a certain age. Now, though, comes word that manga is starting to go all adult and practical on us: The first business comic book is on its way. It's called The Adventures of Johnny Bunko: The Last Career Guide You'll Ever Need, and it's written by Daniel H. Pink, the author of two trend-setting books about the workplace, Free Agent Nation and A Whole New Mind.

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Thank you for that item to Andrew Stuerzel

Hypnosis Helping Abused Children
by Adam Eason

I was delighted to read this morning that hypnosis has been openly and widely discussed as a tool for helping children overcome the effects of child abuse…

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Shyness An Illness??? The Audacity Of Shy People!!
by Adam Eason

I work with lots of people that blush in social circumstances and meet lots of people that are incredibly shy and wish to overcome it and behave differently in social circumstances… The BBC are reporting that shyness is on the verge of being an official illness and some schools of thought believe that certain anti-depressant drugs are the cure… What?! What?! What?!

Ok, this is unbelievable and typical of how we as a society are choosing to deal with things that are relatively simple to overcome. By classing it as an illness, labelling it, giving a prescription 'cure' is simply going to make things worse in my opinion. I am going to make a statement that is going to agitate some people, upset others and may make me appear insensitive… Ready for it? ...

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8 Important Reasons Why You Should Stop Watching The Dr. Phil Show
by Kevin Geary

It's amazing how something or someone so amazingly bad can become so popular and profitable. With millions of viewers and more than a few nods from Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phil has risen to superstar status.

This is why I feel it's important to let the truth be known. If I had my wish, all 5.5 million of his viewers and the millions of potential viewers would read this post and stop watching.

Dr. Phil McGraw is dangerous to psychology, relationships, family, health, and every other topic he touches on. And I have the evidence to back it up.

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Today is a Gift
by Kim Kotecki

One of the topics we hit on in our speaking programs is fear. Fear is a major obstacle to living an Adultitis-free life. Grown-ups sure have an easy time maxing out their daily quota of worry and fear. Our imaginations instantly create the worst case scenario, rarely leaving time for what's likely to happen, or even what the best case may be.

Here's the truth… fear is paralyzing - mentally, spiritually, and physically. It fills our Family Circushead, heart and body with unnecessary tension preventing chemicals and hormones from working properly… leading to a bunch of health issues that are not good.

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How I Parent

A short and hopefully useful instantly downloadable e-book about how I parent my own children.

Read more about that here

Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement

Be sure to download your FREE copy of my Guiding Stars of the New Parenting Movement e-books while you're here if you haven't done so already.

There are two volumes so far. These e-books are FREE with my compliments and are packed with valuable insights and useful ideas to help you in your parenting adventure.

Volume 1 - an introduction to the work of Michael Mendizza, Robin Grille, Laura Ramirez, Jan Hunt, Pam Leo, Pat and Larry Downing, Alfie Kohn, Marc Prensky, Kali Wendorf and Jan Fortune-Wood:

Download it from here

Volume 2 - an introduction to the work of Aletha Solter, Kim Wildner, Naomi Aldort, John Travis and Meryn Callander, John Breeding, Scott Noelle, Beverley Paine and Alan Wilson

Download it from here

Kindred Magazine

In the latest issue of Kindred magazine:

When someone you love dies
Death through the eyes of a child
The natural birth/death connection
Still Born
Growing a Community
Creating a School/Community Garden
The Fluoride Debate: are we poisoning our kids?
The Northern Territory Intervention
Many Hands: Creating parental support
Adopting an older child: a woman's journey

For more information and to subscribe please visit the Kindred Magazine website

Natural Child News

In the latest issue of the Natural Child Project newsletter:

"The Baby Borrowers" letter-writing campaign
New Article: When a Child Feels Shy by Jan Hunt
New Article: Protecting a Child's Emotional Development When Parents Divorce by Peter Haiman
Quote of the Month
Research: Breastfeeding and sleep
Research: Spanking
Gift Shop
The Unschooling Unmanual
The Natural Child: Parenting From the Heart
Parenting Card of the Month
Talk with Jan
Attachment Parenting Directory

Subscribe to Natural Child News here   

Connection Parenting

A standout book by parent educator Pam Leo recommended by the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children.   

"Connection parenting is parenting through connection instead of coercion, through love instead of fear."

The complete book is now on audio CD, read by the author.

Sign up for Pam Leo's newsletter Connecting Connection Parents:

Click here and scroll down

Connection Parenting Connects with the Consciously Parenting Project Online

Click on the link below to listen to a one hour teleseminar with Pam and Rebecca Thompson, M.S., MFT, executive director of the Consciously Parenting Project.

Robin Grille's New Book: Heart to Heart Parenting
Kinma School proudly presents a National Family Week Event: a public talk by internationally acclaimed author Robin Grille - "Parents were children once" - in celebration of his latest book, Heart to Heart Parenting: Nurturing your child's emotional intelligence from conception to school age.

"Do you ever feel baffled by your baby or child, and stuck wondering how to respond? How can you learn to better understand your child from the inside? The key to your own wisdom and intuition as a parent lies in your body-memory of having been a child yourself. Revisiting our own childhood is something we don't do often enough - and yet, our 'inner-child' memory holds so many answers!"

Robin invites you on a journey to connect with your 'inner-child', so you can:
* Hone your parenting intuition
* Understand your child - from the inside . . Enhance the two-way communication between you and your child . . Make the parenting relationship more joyous and alive
"Inside every parent is the blueprint to intuit exactly what is right for their children - beyond formulas and fads. Robin Grille ignites that blueprint, validates its wisdom and provokes it into action in a book that dares to give parents back their dignity and their sovereignty. In so doing, Heart to Heart Parenting is a journey into meaningful, authentic connection with ourselves and our children, and a discovery of our human birthright - peace and love."
Kali Wendorf, Editor, Kindred Magazine
WHEN: Wednesday 14th May, 2008

6.30pm Refreshments and music
7.30pm Talk followed by book signing

WHERE: Kinma Pre-School, 127 Coolowie Rd, Terrey Hills, Sydney 2084, Australia

ENTRY: $10 per head includes refreshments

BOOKINGS: Essential - Limited tickets available

Contact Julie Carr at (02) 9450 0738 or for bookings and more information
Heart to Heart Parenting (rrp: $35.00) and limited copies of Robin's previous book Parenting for a Peaceful World will be on sale.

View the invitation in colour here:

Develop Your Child News

From Alan Wilson in the UK:

"Holiday workshops for kids (8-14 years)

Neither at home or at school have we learned how to handle negative emotions. Art of Living (ART) breathing techniques, meditation, and yoga have helped many around the world and empowered them with unconditional joy. Presented in a practical and fun framework that appeals to youth of all ethnic, racial and religious backgrounds, ART Excel offers an enlightening approach that awakens youth to their deepest potential and life's higher values. Next Course April 7th - 11th, 10am - 4pm, in Ashford, Kent. Register NOW [or for information about future courses] contact: Farnaaz - 079 4649 4614 ;
And for adults

This powerful technique is available for adults too! Taught in over 2200 centres in 150 countries around the world the Art of Living course is recognised as a comprehensive self-development program by the UN, WHO and UNICEF.  A free introduction course is available for you to try for yourself, 3 consecutive evenings from 7pm to 9pm starting Tuesday 17th June to Thursday 19th June. The full course will run for 6 consecutive evenings Tuesday 8th July to Sunday 13th July from 7 to 9pm. Both courses will take place in Maidstone, Kent. Places are limited so book your place now with Farnaaz - 079 4649 4614;
Department for Children, Schools and Families

The Department for Children Schools and Families has promised to support parents "parents want more support in managing the new pressures they face such as balancing work and family life" and "more than ever before families will be at the centre of excellent integrated services that put their needs first".

After 2 high level meetings and lots of emails I don't feel confident that anything is in place to support this promise. I want to pressurise the government and have set up a petition, if you resonate with it, please support it and spread the word
Our unique approach

We have created an exciting package of resources to download encapsulating our unique approach; it includes our leading self help book, our landmark DVD and five special bonuses, more details are here

Free resources

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12th International Conference on Rethinking Education

Thursday, September 4 - Monday, September 8, 2008

Westin Park Central Hotel, 20 minutes from Dallas-Fort Worth airport in Dallas, Texas, USA

You are enthusiastically invited to attend!

"Join hundreds of unschooling families from around the globe as we rethink the meanings of education, learning, parenting...and life! Rethinking Education supports attachment parenting, unconditional love, support for each person's unique journey of life experience, freedom with responsibility, unschooling and you. YOU are the vital ingredient at this conference, as we come together and revel in the magic and mystery of kindred spirits and each other's rich diversity, as we challenge ourselves to trust the extraordinary process of living and learning, the wondrous ability to improve the ways we communicate, discovering new ways of listening to one another, giving full support to our dreams, no matter how wild or ordinary, large or small."

I have been invited to contribute to this year's Conference and will be running three discussion groups: Full-Time Fatherhood, Secrets of a Happy Family, Unschooling and the Digital Revolution.

Please visit the Rethinking Education Conference website for more information about this exciting event!

The Mindful Parent

"The Mindful Parent is an organization devoted to sharing with parents and other child caregivers ways in which to enhance the many joys of parenting.  By mindfully attending to our children, both when we are physically present with them and when we are physically separated from them, we can enhance our sense of connection to them and, in turn, our connection to the cosmos.  This makes us a better parent, a happier person, and a more vital human being."


Natural Hypnotic Childbirth

Enjoy Natural Childbirth The Way Nature Intended

A new audio programme from UK hypnotherapist Adam Eason, one of my favourite people I've never met.

"This wonderful audio programme offers you a natural method of allowing your body to give birth to your baby in a stress-free, pain-free, joyous and comfortable environment."

Go here for more exciting information about Natural Hypnotic Childbirth

What Babies Want

An Exploration of the Consciousness of Infants

"What Babies Want is an award winning documentary film that explores the profoundly important and sacred opportunity we have in bringing children into the world. Filled with captivating stories and infused with Noah Wyle's warmth as narrator, the film demonstrates how life patterns are established at birth and before. The documentary includes groundbreaking information on early development as well as appearances by the real experts: babies and families."

Diaper Free Baby

"DiaperFreeBaby is a network of free support groups promoting a natural approach to responding to babies' elimination needs. This practice is followed worldwide and is known as Elimination Communication, Natural Infant Hygiene, and Infant Potty Training. The process involves observing one's baby's signs and signals, providing cue sounds and elimination-place associations, and can be done with or without any diaper use."

Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory

"The University of Notre Dame Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Lab is both a research and teaching laboratory. Upperclass undergraduate students at Notre Dame gain first hand experience conducting cutting-edge research examining issues of national and international significance. These issues include the safety of different sleep environments as well as the the physiological and/or psychological consequences of the different choices of sleeping arrangements parents make."

Visit the Sleep Lab

Thank you for that item to Lyla Wolfenstein via Always Learning

Conscious Woman

Conscious Woman, Inc. is an online resource for personal, community and global issues related to women's health and the environment. Through WebEx, the most technologically advanced and user-friendly online learning system in the market, we will take you into virtual classrooms where you can interact directly with the experts. And all in the comfort of your home!

Holistic Moms Network

"Our purpose is to generate national awareness, education, and support for holistic parenting and to provide a nurturing, open-minded, and respectful community for parents to share these ideals.

Our purpose is also to encourage moms (and dads) in their efforts to parent naturally and to raise their children holistically, to help holistic moms find others with whom they can connect, and to continually educate ourselves and our families about alternative health, mindful parenting, natural healing, and green living."

Visit the Holistic Moms Network website

Plain Talk About Spanking

Parents and Teachers Against Violence in Education offer this 16-page booklet, Plain Talk About Spanking, for the benefit of children everywhere.

Read the online version at, or order printed copies of the booklet.

"Thank you so much for your clear, true, brave and convincing booklet. It should be offered free to every parent immediately after the birth of EACH of their children." - Alice Miller, Psychotherapist and internationally renowned author of (among other books) the best-selling For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence.

Fight For Kids

"The purpose of this website is to educate parents worldwide on the facts about today's widespread practice of labeling children mentally ill and drugging them with heavy, mind-altering, psychiatric drugs. Armed in this way, loving parents will be able to prevail in the face of the enormous "drug children now" pressures so entrenched in society today. Protected in this way, our children will be spared the totally unnecessary misery of a drug-hazed youth, succeeded by the risk of a drug-consumed adulthood."

Find out more at

The 'ADHD' drug Strattera - an analysis of reports of drug induced mania, psychosis and hallucinations

"Recently an analysis of unpublished clinical trials, buried in the archives of the regulatory agencies (FDA, MHRA), has shown that antidepressants do not work better than placebo. This means that pharmaceutical companies and psychiatrists with insight in the clinical trial results have told doctors and the public a false story for many years - with approval from the regulatory agencies.
This report shows the other side - how regulatory agencies are in the hands of pharmaceutical companies in their postmarketing surveillance of a drug - and how they choose to be in that position, thus misleading doctors and the public."

Read the full report here

Thank you for that item to Barry Turner

Home Ed Connect

"Home Ed Connect is a new Yahoo! group that has been formed with the aim to help those who feel isolated to make connections with others. This is not a discussion list, as such, but rather a list for making introductions with a view to making e-pals or looking for like-minded folks in your local area.

This group is all inclusive and is designed to be a very tolerant environment for everyone to come together. Hopefully, in time, this will become a wonderful tool for strengthening the Home Educating community in Australia."

Find out more about Home Ed Connect at Yahoo! Groups

Otherways: Home Education Network

"The Home Education Network Inc (HEN) is the largest, most vocal alternative education support group in Victoria [Australia].

HEN has its origins in the Alternative Education Resource Group (AERG) which was formed in 1980 by a small group of concerned parents wanting alternatives to mainstream education for their children. Initially the group was very involved in community schools but gradually the main focus moved to home education and the name of the group was changed to the Home Education Network."

Visit the Otherways website

And finally ...

Certificate of Empowerment

Yours to print out and keep! Some words of parenting wisdom from unschooling legend Sandra Dodd.

Read them here

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